tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post6807497328334701140..comments2023-10-22T05:17:46.986-07:00Comments on Catbird Scout: TrustDeb Shuckahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-16701893681068445972010-09-30T05:50:51.628-07:002010-09-30T05:50:51.628-07:00This could be the central task of human life--to l...This could be the central task of human life--to learn that control is an illusion; to learn that love and acceptance and surrender work. <br /><br />Maybe that's why these lessons are so necessary for writers. How else would be show them in our work than to learn them first?Jerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13063270175679985513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-49037530688113950872010-09-26T14:06:14.127-07:002010-09-26T14:06:14.127-07:00beautiful to run into your blog, and i know how th...beautiful to run into your blog, and i know how the arrival of my dog into my life couldn't have come at a better time, and her presence has taught me so much. even, yes even, as she farts on the sofa in her sleep.EcoGrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04856550147714231721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-40826343543406973452010-09-21T13:05:42.781-07:002010-09-21T13:05:42.781-07:00Oh my gosh, I've just been in conversation thi...Oh my gosh, I've just been in conversation thirty minutes ago with another person about this very issue. How if we hold a space of love and trust for a person, (why not for an animal companion as well) not only <i>for</i> them, but expecting the same from them, whatever they may be presenting to us, they will embrace the love and meet our expectation.<br /><br />I have to wonder, just a little, who is training who? (Or is that whom?) ; )<br /><br />This is another beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing it.graceonlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07600679221472546269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-65945794786926716662010-09-18T18:35:15.198-07:002010-09-18T18:35:15.198-07:00I've long had a personal belief that relations...I've long had a personal belief that relationships take 3 years to develop and prove true. Now I will add dogs to that list :).Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-6799401614445273892010-09-18T16:23:43.840-07:002010-09-18T16:23:43.840-07:00I added myself to follow your blog. You are more t...I added myself to follow your blog. You are more than welcome to visit mine and become a follower if you want to. <br /><br />God Bless You ~RonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-50131412976180109322010-09-18T13:43:19.662-07:002010-09-18T13:43:19.662-07:00I've never had a dog, but I love this post bec...I've never had a dog, but I love this post because I got a great sense of how your relationship has grown, and how Toby has matured. And of course, being a grandma above all else, I am thinking about how love and trust applies to kids. They are like puppies in their quest to test the limits, but also in their need for love and trust. I can't just let them run around with no pants on, as they'd prefer, but I can accept that they love the freedom and find a way to work with that. (Just one example, and yes it's an issue we're currently dealing with.) Thanks for the great post.Nancy/BLissed-Out Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223278142557533175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-73192826048500757972010-09-17T20:42:54.031-07:002010-09-17T20:42:54.031-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Gammaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17228899244126635018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-12920238166413993992010-09-17T20:42:53.321-07:002010-09-17T20:42:53.321-07:00Deb
I walked the park today again...one last time ...Deb<br />I walked the park today again...one last time before I left. Melissa with me, pushing her double stroller filled with her happy cozy babes up the trails. I let Pearl off leash. She stayed with us on the trail and then before the final downhill, she disappeared. Knees being such a problem these days, I asked Melissa to stay where she was in case Pearl went up into the woods and I hobbled down to the parking lot...no Pearl. Panic beginning to spill out of my brain and fill my ears, she came running from far across the parking lot and road. She'd ran down and into the water! So many images flashed in my mind...but she came smiling and happy and wet. That we create these stories about what can happen in our minds and use that story and build fear based on that whole made up story! The fear may be real, but the story that creates it is, well, fiction.<br />So that was my park lesson today.<br /><br />So many stories we create about our lives, experiences, and expectations and so much fear is generated in our own heads based on those stories. Wears me out.<br /><br />MaryGammaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17228899244126635018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-38234977399719240072010-09-17T15:23:33.419-07:002010-09-17T15:23:33.419-07:00You say so much with this post--especially your en...You say so much with this post--especially your ending. I love that you learn from everything around you.Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-65730090465652097472010-09-16T22:57:37.774-07:002010-09-16T22:57:37.774-07:00It's all about the relationship, isn't it?...It's all about the relationship, isn't it?Wandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17654451878235512846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-14764823373286721262010-09-16T18:38:36.092-07:002010-09-16T18:38:36.092-07:00Man, I bet you were an awesome teacher when you we...Man, I bet you were an awesome teacher when you were at the school. What a beauiful post.<br /><br />This sounds like something we should learn about our kids, too.<br /><br />:)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04680903854519503303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-76555528220234054542010-09-16T17:04:37.733-07:002010-09-16T17:04:37.733-07:00To live by trust is a lesson in letting go and not...To live by trust is a lesson in letting go and not expecting to control. Perhaps Toby can sense your ties to him and his to you that go beyond control. Enjoy each other.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984171407726520584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-49313588002502902622010-09-16T16:02:24.954-07:002010-09-16T16:02:24.954-07:00A beautiful story about a wonderful dog and the pe...A beautiful story about a wonderful dog and the person who loves him.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-87099095136459770192010-09-16T15:59:31.080-07:002010-09-16T15:59:31.080-07:00Lovely piece. It also reminded me of how much easi...Lovely piece. It also reminded me of how much easier dogs get by the time they're three. Our time spent with them, training and loving, surviving the first two years, pays off. Toby sounds like a perfect companion.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-25396050653560890452010-09-16T15:01:16.530-07:002010-09-16T15:01:16.530-07:00"And if I can trust that love and acceptance ..."And if I can trust that love and acceptance and surrender work with a dog, perhaps it's time to believe, to really embrace, that it works everywhere." I loved that line...because it is so true. You found the key in the first few words..."love". It's amazing the relationship those two words have together. I'm glad that you are finding both.<br /><br />Love you<br />MarkMark Lyonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05915827981541131957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-12360695701113699402010-09-16T14:58:46.746-07:002010-09-16T14:58:46.746-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mark Lyonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05915827981541131957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-9420107948069932502010-09-16T14:04:11.606-07:002010-09-16T14:04:11.606-07:00Beautiful reflection here Deb. Your story about yo...Beautiful reflection here Deb. Your story about your relationship with Toby is much like mine with my dog Ellie and in some ways like my relationships with my daughters too! It is about trust. Letting go. Love. and trust again.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349928247626849914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-50046270990859353472010-09-16T13:59:54.029-07:002010-09-16T13:59:54.029-07:00I love your dog! He is so beautiful! And I think y...I love your dog! He is so beautiful! And I think you are right about the trust and let go thing. I am working my way to that point too. :)Tabitha Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08196816108272065974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-83180298231143374782010-09-16T13:25:49.564-07:002010-09-16T13:25:49.564-07:00I loved your post, Deb. Trusting does alleviate a ...I loved your post, Deb. Trusting does alleviate a lot of stress in ones life.Wanda.....https://www.blogger.com/profile/00551160819558198338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-31813421012251474792010-09-16T13:22:17.731-07:002010-09-16T13:22:17.731-07:00I struggle with this "control" issue wit...I struggle with this "control" issue with CB, too, but I'm inspired to let him go a little from time to time to see if I can experience some of the same...<br /><br />I could use some reminders to trust ;-)kariohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10150537989886423212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-14124344304000939982010-09-16T13:14:17.786-07:002010-09-16T13:14:17.786-07:00"Control is an illusion," I know that se..."Control is an illusion," I know that sentiment so well. As I yell, "here" and "wait" at the top of my lungs I am quite aware that my six month old golden retriever is only racing towards me because she can see I am waving a bag of treats in the air or has stopped simply because it suited her to do so. <br />Still, I fill up with pride when she ignores the pull of the other dogs on the common and sits, staring up at me through her golden lashes, patiently waiting for the treat I have in my hand.<br />I hope I have created an illusion of control for the benefit of anyone watching!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-16612030138296751052010-09-16T11:56:11.136-07:002010-09-16T11:56:11.136-07:00mmm... here's what I needed to hear:
".....mmm... here's what I needed to hear:<br /><br />"... I let go of any expectation beyond keeping him safe and appropriately social. And I just loved him the way he was. I trusted him as far as he'd let me, but didn't demand more than I got."<br /><br />and <br /><br />"At some point I surrendered to that, to the unknown of our relationship, never expecting that I'd get this amazing lesson in trust. "<br /><br />Thank you. Again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-10037613999475605272010-09-16T11:32:18.765-07:002010-09-16T11:32:18.765-07:00I was afraid to go from one paragraph to another i...I was afraid to go from one paragraph to another in your post fearing that something happened to the dog.<br />Suspenseful !!!!!!!<br />Glad it all ended up ok.<br />whewElenkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11377371859667172825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-2707574315479400042010-09-16T11:31:36.850-07:002010-09-16T11:31:36.850-07:00Yes, Katie is right, you've done it again! i h...Yes, Katie is right, you've done it again! i have learned a lot from walking Flicka, too, that sometimes her tugging takes me places I hadn't planned to go, but needed to.<br /><br />Been drawing angel cards each day, and 2 out of the last 3 have been the same: love. Say it with me... Anyway, talks about the Ascension Attitudes being love, gratitude and surrender. <br /><br />Surrendering is hard.Carrie Wilson Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01586157395539583862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-17788316185754245262010-09-16T10:55:36.029-07:002010-09-16T10:55:36.029-07:00You've done it again! My eyes have teared-up a...You've done it again! My eyes have teared-up and I just got chills! Isn't it wonderful that our pets can teach us such lessons?<br />"Control is an illusion..." Boy, that says it all right there!Katie Gateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01264642384901419402noreply@blogger.com