tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post1895198793084208394..comments2023-10-22T05:17:46.986-07:00Comments on Catbird Scout: Webs of MemoryDeb Shuckahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-51464671070612263052011-06-29T10:32:20.247-07:002011-06-29T10:32:20.247-07:00Deb... I am probably not the only one to say that ...Deb... I am probably not the only one to say that our stories are similar in a way. It's so incredibly sad . I , too , am finding half truths, odd bits, questions. Some of it has been very unsettling and I am trying to "use" it to understand, to be compassionate and aware, and also to let it go... to be mindful of what I bring up to others who might be hurt. I don't know. <br /><br />You are remarkable. Remarkable. I hope you know that. <br />And I wish I could give you an in real life hug.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924061349390319473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-75531553063272205962011-06-20T22:33:16.564-07:002011-06-20T22:33:16.564-07:00See ~ I do have a blog. What the hell is up with t...See ~ I do have a blog. What the hell is up with that??Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04143179317980103117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-62918529466095390862011-06-20T22:31:43.298-07:002011-06-20T22:31:43.298-07:00I'm so glad the funeral is over and you all ha...I'm so glad the funeral is over and you all have some peace. Love you!Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04143179317980103117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-84815349596573838632011-06-19T19:58:41.112-07:002011-06-19T19:58:41.112-07:00Maybe one day, we'll have all the answers to t...Maybe one day, we'll have all the answers to things like this. *hugs*colbymarshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14056535503422186623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-59008147293517208812011-06-19T00:38:19.630-07:002011-06-19T00:38:19.630-07:00Hi Deb, what a beautiful photo and a very intrigui...Hi Deb, what a beautiful photo and a very intriguing story to follow through on. I hope Saturday went well, with a celebration of good memories. Life passes so quickly, another lesson to us all to enjoy every moment. I hope you are able to find out more. Love and hugs to you.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07264870679584625362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-76958730306124556992011-06-18T17:33:58.767-07:002011-06-18T17:33:58.767-07:00Deb, you write so well and I was caught up in the ...Deb, you write so well and I was caught up in the story.<br /><br />All of probably have family stories that will never be completely told. At least we have stories. Can you imagine the stories that those born in the last few years will never have. Family and the history forged by that family is becoming less and less important. Such a shame. ktAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01967340091034274347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-77118857755008075162011-06-17T21:46:39.412-07:002011-06-17T21:46:39.412-07:00I've been exploring my mother's history si...I've been exploring my mother's history since she passed away in 2008. I have more understanding now of why she was unable to be accepting and nurturing. I was angry and hurt for many years, and friends encouraged me to forgive her. With my new knowledge, there's nothing to forgive.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-4416005365243388422011-06-17T18:21:57.387-07:002011-06-17T18:21:57.387-07:00It feels so hard to have loose strings from our ow...It feels so hard to have loose strings from our own family history. I can relate. On one had the history, the true story we don't know, seems like a missing part. On the other, we are here. Simply here now. <br /><br />I have a feeling you have all your mysterious grandmothers beauty. And you have what she didn't have, which is the beautiful spirit to keep pushing on in this life. Taking each day as the gift it is, sober and face turned to the sun.<br /><br />I adore your spirit. I send you so much love to sustain you, should you need it. But you won't... you have always held everything you need right inside of you. <br /><br />:) oxoxoxAmberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04680903854519503303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-69929065635509734662011-06-17T17:35:41.674-07:002011-06-17T17:35:41.674-07:00Oh sweet friend, so much sadness and beauty spun i...Oh sweet friend, so much sadness and beauty spun into this web...the cradle so fragile and strong that you have rocked in all your life. I pray that your beloveds are all together, somewhere giving one another what they could not in this life.<br /><br />blessings to youLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349928247626849914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-53840249228240881832011-06-17T09:58:43.917-07:002011-06-17T09:58:43.917-07:00It seems like her life began so sad and of course ...It seems like her life began so sad and of course shaped her into who she was. I love how you share your thoughts.It's like stepping right in and you make me think about my own life.Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-54662440194188969612011-06-17T07:06:30.594-07:002011-06-17T07:06:30.594-07:00I hadn't realized that you mom was a mother-le...I hadn't realized that you mom was a mother-less daughter at so young an age. Perhaps that helps give insight into the difficulty she had being your mom. I'm glad you had the incentive to revisit the photographs. I'm hoping for answers to your questions. I'm thinking of you this weekend, and looking forward to seeing you next week!Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15923693784234135636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-28569927343189341402011-06-16T22:13:56.452-07:002011-06-16T22:13:56.452-07:00Hi, Deb!
The webs of memory for you are beautifull...Hi, Deb!<br />The webs of memory for you are beautifully expressed in this post.<br />I hope your hopes come to pass!Fresh Gardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07321496696487687435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-69739095109350082152011-06-15T18:57:51.511-07:002011-06-15T18:57:51.511-07:00You're lucky to have the photos, Deb - through...You're lucky to have the photos, Deb - through you, they tell the story of a family. I think many of us have unanswered questions about our own families - we can only surmise what might have been.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984171407726520584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-26441303559316497222011-06-15T14:15:37.871-07:002011-06-15T14:15:37.871-07:00A great photo and so sad a story. I like it.A great photo and so sad a story. I like it.Ellie Greathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03801920885701699849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-57709931958929115992011-06-15T12:24:00.604-07:002011-06-15T12:24:00.604-07:00All those mysteries would intrigue me, but what a ...All those mysteries would intrigue me, but what a sad, sad story. :-( This is a beautiful post, once again.<br />I hope the service goes smoothly. *hugs*Jessica Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12365768876905444157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-59804628148321057052011-06-15T07:31:57.742-07:002011-06-15T07:31:57.742-07:00So very well written post, it must have been reall...So very well written post, it must have been really difficult for you... It is best that somethings are left as they are...<br />God Bless.Artihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606566484548310912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-1212432593941074682011-06-15T06:44:37.154-07:002011-06-15T06:44:37.154-07:00Such a beautiful photo and so sad a story Deb. As ...Such a beautiful photo and so sad a story Deb. As I say in my own blog this week, photographs can mean so much especially when they are such rare finds.<br />I always hope that those who have gone before me will somehow be reunited and be waiting for me. Or perhaps there is something beyond anything our minds can comprehend, which will explain everything and make us complete when the time comes. <br />I am supposed to be at my cousin's funeral today. A man only ten years younger than my late father who was brought up as his brother. He was the image of my father and I shall miss seeing him and seeing my father's face again. Why am I not at the funeral? Well, my husband had a mild heart attack last week and our lives have been a bit topsy-turvey. Thankfully, he is home and our wonderful NHS made him well, inserting three more stents into minor arteries (he had one in a major artery some 16 years ago)_. Golly, a long comment and all I meant to say was what a beautiful photo, a poignant memory and sorry I haven't commented much this past week or so. I am also very sorry to hear about your mother passing. Take care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-47554940059140124572011-06-14T23:09:58.142-07:002011-06-14T23:09:58.142-07:00As always, you've got me thinking! I love the...As always, you've got me thinking! I love the concept of webs of memory. I have boxes of my mother's photos and many of them are memories and stories that are lost to her passing. I regret not getting the stories before she died, but there's also a part of me that is willing to let it go. Maybe I'm better off living in the here and now and letting the past fade to black.#1Nanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04214011945298439939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-9481475115610496112011-06-14T22:12:41.840-07:002011-06-14T22:12:41.840-07:00"her best pictures of her mom would have been..."her best pictures of her mom would have been woven of imagination and longing."<br /><br />Oh, Deb. I'm so sorry for your losses this year. I am thankful for your gift of writing - a channel for your pain. Such passion conveyed. Healing passion, I pray. Take good care of yourself.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-74457819054389719522011-06-14T21:06:00.132-07:002011-06-14T21:06:00.132-07:00Perhaps it was alcohol allergy--not uncommon in Na...Perhaps it was alcohol allergy--not uncommon in Native Americans. I hope these three women are enjoying each other--but I hope it is a long time before you join them.<br /><br />Hugs.Wandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17654451878235512846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-81480497854966218212011-06-14T20:57:07.638-07:002011-06-14T20:57:07.638-07:00When I see your mother in that photo, her baby fac...When I see your mother in that photo, her baby face so close to the photo of you on your sidebar, I am struck at the smile and the cheeks on you both. <br /><br />I hate the notion that the questions we want answered so badly won't be answered, no matter how much we want it. I hope that you all find peace in what you have and what you do know.<br /><br />Love.kariohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10150537989886423212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-29466608853058066222011-06-14T20:08:26.658-07:002011-06-14T20:08:26.658-07:00The webs of memory for you are beautifully express...The webs of memory for you are beautifully expressed in this post. There is a great deal of mystery and loss that surrounded your mother. I do hope that someday the answers that need to be answered are. <br /><br />I will keep you in my thoughts as you prepare for the service for your mother.Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-34675279390593997042011-06-14T18:53:45.363-07:002011-06-14T18:53:45.363-07:00And this is why, with your amazing help. I now hav...And this is why, with your amazing help. I now have a blog. Only wish I had more time to figure it out. I don't want to post as anonymous anymore. Love, JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-23543780674076542332011-06-14T18:40:54.878-07:002011-06-14T18:40:54.878-07:00My heart is full jut reading this, Deb. You must b...My heart is full jut reading this, Deb. You must be wondering if you will ever know more than you do today. You have expressed it all so very well... thank you.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3323372985310307718.post-62533231352072586082011-06-14T18:16:25.648-07:002011-06-14T18:16:25.648-07:00if only pictures could speak!if only pictures could speak!Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05943301163903634325noreply@blogger.com